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April 18, 2007

Discipline on the Traveling Team

There is a small, well rounded tree at the entrance to the Kiwi Packer Lodge beside the Rotorua Aquatic Center in New Zealand. My team called it the “Jan Tree”. I’m told it’s the tree Jan Cameron, the National Coach hid behind at midnight after the National Championships in 2001 to make sure her athletes never “hit the town”. She remained well hidden, I am told, because of the striking similarity between the trees stature and her own.

There must be as many ways of imposing discipline on a traveling team as there a coaches. I tend to rule with a pretty loose rein.

Don Talbot, Cameron’s ex husband is rumored to have ruled with an iron fist. When Talbot was in charge, members of the Australian team fell into two categories; those that went to bed early and those who were world renowned as masters of deception. The problem for coaches like Talbot and Bill Sweetenham, another Australian tough bugger; is they tend to inspire rebellion or dishonesty.

New Zealand’s best swim coach, Duncan Lang was a hard man too but didn’t impose a rigid set of “Southern Baptist” rules. I went with him to a World Cup Final in Majorca in 1992. He treated the team with trust and dignity. To the best of my knowledge the team’s behavior reflected that trust. I remember Toni Jeffs beating David Wilkie at pool in some bar at 2.00am on the last night, but not before she and every other team member had collected a medal in the Championship Finals. I bet that’s the last time New Zealand managed that at a meet that had “world” in its title.

Duncan could get angry though. He and New Zealand’s best breaststroke swimmer, Paul Kent, had a minor brawl in Rome Airport a few years ago. They exchanged some punches that caused neither of them any harm. Swimming New Zealand was horrified, of course. I thought the skirmish cleared the air wonderfully.

New Zealand’s current Director of Coaching, Clive Rushton, had a difficult situation to deal with a few years ago. On the last night of the Yokohama Pan Pacific Games, a sizable proportion of the New Zealand team appears to have gone right off the rails; throwing up in other people’s rooms, all that sort of thing. Whether the fact Cameron was in charge had anything to do with it I have no idea, but more than a good time was being had by many.

In the past Swimming New Zealand would have sought out the offenders and imposed summary punishment. On this occasion Rushton sent a letter that simply said, he knew what had gone on, he was new to New Zealand, nothing more would happen on this occasion but if it occurred again their would be all hell to pay. I thought it was a terrific letter. It put New Zealand’s swimmers on notice. The responsibility was theirs; obey or perish.

I’ve had a couple of moments of my own. One swimmer on a team I took to the Mare Nostrum meets provided my most remarkable moment. She had been arguing on the bus with the parent of another swimmer. She ended up giving him the stiff middle finger as she climbed from the bus outside our Canet hotel. I got the team’s rooms organized and took the hotel’s tiny elevator to the third floor. As the doors opened I heard and saw my swimmer thumping on one of the doors.

Get out here now,” she screamed, “get out here now. I haven’t finished with you yet. Get the fuck out here now.”

Cut that out. Get to your room.” I yelled above her scream.

I haven’t finished with that fucking bastard,” she shrieked back.

I’ll drag you by your hair out of here,” I threatened.

She seemed to realize I meant it and slunk away, still muttering obscenities. I knocked on the door. Steve was a big guy; about 6ft4, played college football, but I was sure would be hiding petrified at the onslaught on his door. You can imagine my horror when the door opened and two small, elderly German ladies stood on the other side. My swimmer had attacked the wrong door.

It turns out they were in their eighties, in France on holiday and came from the German city of Dresden. Now, I don’t know whether you are aware but on April 16 1945 Dresden was badly bombed by British and American airplanes. Over 5500 tons of bombs were dropped destroying 30,000 lives; 12,000 houses; "24 banks; 6470 shops; 640 warehouses; 31 large hotels; 26 public houses; 18 cinemas; 11 churches; 19 hospitals and 39 schools."

I asked if the two would like to have a drink in the hotel bar in order that I could apologize properly. They accepted. As we sat there, they told me about that night in Dresden and the unimaginable horror of it all. Then one of them looked thoughtfully at her friend and said a line I will never forget.

That was bad,” she said, “but I think this afternoon was worse.”

I know what I did to discipline the errant child. It caused her parents great stress. In the following month they wrote some 20 emails accusing me of destroying their daughter and their family. One delightful one called me “a horrible lying man.” Before I tell you what I did though; what would you have done? What discipline would you have imposed? I’d really like to know. Next week I’ll post what was actually done in the comments section of this story so we can compare what I did with some alternative views!

9 Comments:

Anonymous "Sasha", for these purposes said...

I wrote this already, but it apparently did not publish!

You know what I would have done, because I was there and I told you at the time. I'd have sent her home immediately.

However, you were faced with unusual geographic, financial and political circumstances that prevented you from doing that with any amount of ease. In retrospect, I'd have scratched her from all of her races throughout the entire trip and told her to keep away from the pool. Have a holiday.

It sounds like I'm saying I would have given her a freebie vacation, but it would have made from a more enjoyable and profitable trip.

22:33  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This story has a number of 'holes' in it. What caused the parent & swimmer to have their diffences in the first place? What did you do that the swimmer in order for the parents to have called you a lyer? How come intervention between the two didn't take place earlier?

It takes a spark to start a raging forest fire; if things had escalated to the point of a swimmer giving the finger to a parent and the threat by the swimmer to impose perhaps bodily harm on this physically imposing parent....why wasn't the spark addressed. Was this parent a chaperone? Was their past 'bad blood' between these two?

I would have intervened at that moment on the bus; got each side of the story and attempted some reconciliation with each other or avoidance of each other for the rest of the competition so the swimmer can go to the competition to do what she was supposed to do and the parent could do what he was suppose to do; be it chaperone or whatever.


Other than that in my mind there are not enough facts in your story to speak of what sort of discipline to impose.

GAndrews

05:12  
Anonymous Jane said...

Gordon, you're right. There are holes in this story... I guess it's so ingrained in our minds that we forget how ludicrous it sounds to others.

The quick version is this: we should have seen this behaviour coming but we didn't. We thought she'd enjoy the international swimming experience and that her slightly volatile personality would thrive in the exciting environment, which is what we'd seen happen before.

As for bad blood, there had been little to none before we left home. This was another reason the events of the trip came as such a surprise. We were very shocked at the disaster our Mare Nostrum was turning into.

As for her parents calling David a liar, I think his plan is to explain all of that next week when he publishes what he actually did.

I know my explanation of the story is pretty weak, too. But as someone who's written a fair few stories in her time, I can tell you that I'd be writing for the rest of the day if I were to tell the whole thing here.

But I tell you when the book comes out :P

~J

10:34  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sounds good.....as far as what to do I would have observed the warning signs and intervened in the hopes that things wouldn't escalate to the point they did.....like many hindsighters are doing in the VTEch murders....

Anyway back to your story:
The ole...listen to one side of the story, than the other, make some unbiased observations, have them both sit down, and discuss a way that they could either part ways or learn to get along. Listening to both sides without any prejudicial thoughts like "this is just a kid swimmer" or "he is an adult, he must be right".....

I know that sounds like an easy solution to perhaps a complicated problem but that is my best insight to the facts presented in this story.

GAndrews

18:03  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Perhaps you made her travel to deresden to build a memorial to the polite german women who were nearly ravaged by her anger, with the quote at the bottom saying, "That was bad, but I think this afternoon was worse." On a more serious note, you contacted her parents to inform them of all of this, and being ridiculous parents, they didn't believe you and sided with their daughter, whom you proceeded to remove from the team?

Robertnole

11:45  
Anonymous Jane said...

Robert - indeed, your serious response is what David tried to do...

... stay tuned for what ended up happening.

15:44  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

There is competition afoot to see who is more full of it. Jane or David. The reason it is full of holes is that it is just plain wrong in many cases and horribly onesided in others, but do you really think either of those two would be honest? The situation was horribly mishandled by a deceitful egomaniac.

22:57  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't see at all where anyone had to sit down with anyone to get to the bottom of this?! This girl didn't just act up once, she acted up, used profanity and at the very least was very disrespectful. Wow, she got off terribly easy! It doesn't matter why she got mad, what matters is that she did not act appropriately. Sorry, I know that is evident to you now. Just my two cents worth.:)

Did this little episode effect the rest of the team in any way? What a horrible situation to put you in.

David, you absolutely did the right thing. You genius you!

11:02  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

David lies cheats steals and does whatever is necessary to advance his own cause and that of his precious Jane. that is all the truth anyone needs to know about this situation.

11:43  

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